My path to flourishing didn’t begin until my late 20s. After repeating a series of self-destructive patterns in my health and love life, I realized that I was only making decisions based on what other people thought I should do.
Hesitant to trust myself, I lived in irrational fear of failure because, What if I made the wrong decision? Surely it would be detrimental, right?
But after an honest conversation with myself, I realized that the only thing detrimental to me was a life lived for other people.
From then on, I decided I was going to face fear and criticism head-on, grabbing the snake by its head and really taking control for everything within my power, something I would later learn and reaffirm from the Stoic teachings.
Each decision going forward would be made with only the grand scheme in mind because I realized that even if I failed, it wasn’t the end of the world—and I would rather live a life of trial-and-error than a life of wondering what might have been had I not taken a risk.
“First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do.”
Losing 115 lbs. would be my first step into a life that was truly mine. I went into that journey with the intent of losing the weight solely for me, not a lover or anyone else. I felt like a powerful magician after that, and my next trick would be writing a book.
Despite having little experience and continually criticized for taking my “hobby” too far, I wrote a book.
This would lead me to a comic limited series deal which, in turn, led me across the U. S., Canada, and Europe. The girl with no degree in writing, business, or even sales experience, went on to sell-out of books internationally and give seminars on direct sales in indie publishing to industry professionals and newcomers alike for over five years.
There was a lot of hard work involved but, at the end of the day, it was my willingness to learn, perseverance, and vanquishing my fear of failure that got me where I am today.
During the pandemic, when conventions came to a screeching halt and book sales were down, I decided to pursue freelance editing. Thankfully, I became successful at that too.
Also, during the pandemic, I would discover there was a name for my grand scheme and my “do or do not” perspective: Stoicism.
When I discovered and downloaded Donald Robertson’s “How to Think Like a Roman Emperor” on Audible, I read about “the view from above” which helped me build emotional resiliency. I realised that all along I was a Stoic.
Today, I’m blessed with the opportunity to edit for Mr. Robertson on his much-anticipated graphic novel, “Verissimus: The Stoic Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius.”
I’m also the editor of the upcoming “365 Ways to Be More Stoic” for John Murray Press.
I’m Kasey Pierce and this is my #PathsToFlourishing story.
This is a #PathsToFlourishing story published as part of a series of stories inspired by the Stoicon-x Women 2021 theme: Practical Paths to Flourishing.